How to help children deal with puberty
Saturday, October 10, 2009
NEED time to adapt when the child enters puberty. Do not let the child confused and misguided deal. This is where the role of parents is required. Adolescent's life is full of dynamism. This is the time when the children began to enter adolescence. Puberty-term popularity, usually marked by the growth or secondary sex characteristics appear (secondary sex characteristic).
In such women, menstruation (primary sign), enlarged breasts, hips became more contained, growing feathers around the genitals. While the man marked by the appearance of feathers on the body (mustache, and others), fuller body, the muscles grow, the sound became more severe. In general, their reproductive already started functioning.
"Early puberty is usually experienced by the children aged less than 11 years," says psychologist from the University of Activities of Christian Discourse (UKRIDA) MSi SPSI Moningka Clara.
However, there are also teenagers who begin puberty early, there is a slower. Everything depends hormonal conditions and nutritional intake. Physically, puberty would have to go through every person. Period should not be a big problem, but it is part of the task of human development. During this period, usually a child becomes interested in the opposite sex.
Liking the opposite sex naturally occur in this period. Because they are psychologically began to realize the differences between women and men with more vivid. Children also begin to notice the appearance, feel ashamed because of differences, even some who feel proud.
However, what if the child's behavior is not going through puberty but has behaved like a child puberty, for example of how to speak, a way of dating, it could be due to environmental influences.
Public consumption such as soap operas, movies, conversation that showed adult child or adolescent is often emulated, not to mention if the parents or the school does not provide sex education.
"Environmental interaction can also make your child be affected," he said.
The same was said child psychologist Dra Roslina Verauli MPsi that the changes in the environment contributed to a child changes, good way of thinking and acting.
"Exposure to information that can be accessed child anytime from any media, television, radio, internet, books, and magazines, has impacted on what the current teenagers in the head," said psychologist who familiarly called Vera.
Vera explains, puberty is a phase when a child reaches sexual maturity, in terms of sexual organs, which allows one to reproduce. Every child has the age of puberty different.
In women, menstrual cycle on average started when a boy of 12 or 13 years. But in some children, this cycle started more quickly, ie the age of nine years, and some have also a very long 18 years of age.
Menstruation usually will not start if the body has not reached a certain growth rate in height and weight. While the male, puberty begins more than two years later on average than women, the age of about 14 or 15 years. Things change when children enter puberty, including changes in the thinking process.
Always thought process changes from childhood to adolescence. During adolescence, the transformation of thinking. Teenagers are starting to think abstractly, which is radically different from the way of thinking during childhood.
"Unfortunately, in adolescence, with the transformation of thinking was, began to appear also in the form of egocentrism thinking in new ways," said psychologist graduate of the University of Indonesia.
Such thinking can occur when teens feel seolaholah to the attention of other people that have always felt that someone else has some thoughts about him. Which resulted in adolescents fail to see the other person's point of view, because of what he thought had emerged from his own perspective.
Arose child's emotional reaction to the changes that occur. When he saw began to grow hair all over his body, or chest which develops, the penis develops, the bigger hips, until the acne started to attack.
"All of these changes to the attention of teenagers," said psychologist who also practiced at Empathy Development Center.
Some child's reaction to the changes that happened to him among others who have a rebellious nature. Vera said that one cause of children "rebel" against the alias when he felt what the needs and desires fail to understand their parents.
In fact, parents are perceived as too dominant figure and hard so as not to give an opportunity for children to express themselves and mind.
"When parents are too hard, the child will react to 'survive' even became 'aggressive'," he said.
Unfortunately, when parents are too loud, aggressive children appear passively, through a series of actions against the not shown directly. For example, by deliberately delaying parent instructions or orders, or even to ignore every word parent, even doing anything that prohibited parents (of course from the back).
"So what should parents do when delivering a child at puberty, is preparing to position itself as a friend," he said. Friends, that is as balanced partner.
Can parents serve as a "supply" of children with different perspectives of knowledge and expertise without being authoritarian and dictatorial? Not act as a supervisor or board of investigators who continue to position yourself as someone who was in "the" children, and always feel the most entitled to the way children think and act. Because no one knows about a person except himself.
"The children need from parents is a broader perspective that he has a different perspective in facing the challenges that he has," said psychologist who teaches at the Faculty of Psychology University of Tarumanagara this.
Parents also need to have adequate insight. How you can enter the world of the child if you do not even know what Facebook, Twitter, IM, or who is Miley Cyrus, Zack Efron, and Mark Zuckerberg. In fact, you do not know there was such thing as the field of culinary and fashion designer.
"How you will provide a broad insight to the child, when you do not even know how to speak the 'language' teens," he explained.
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