how to deal with fussy kids
Saturday, October 3, 2009
Your baby is often fussy when his wish was fulfilled? This is not a negative phenomenon. This is precisely how to communicate wishes.
Treat it wisely without having to obey all her wishes. Salita Zahra daughter 2.5 years old, he was healthy with normal development for his age. That distinguishes with friends his own age is a bit fussy and temperament.
This kid is easy to cry, rage, and yell when desire is not fulfilled. The father tends to react with the fruit will follow his heart.
A rare meeting with Zahra made by only choosing what he wants. In contrast to the mother. Busyness is often made it often can not wait to face attitude Zahra. Ends when you're upset, he was rarely pinch your baby.
"Sometimes if you listen too dizzy constantly cranky Zahra, yes cry, whine is that, sometimes when another could not restrain emotions, I pinched wrote in exasperation. But after that, of course I feel sorry," said his mother, Lutfia Suyono (27).
Well, actually what a wise attitude to face a fussy child? Emotional intelligence experts from Radani Edutainment, Hanny Muchtar Darta, Certified EI, Psych-K, SET, say, a child has five areas of child development, that is healthy, comfortable, cheerful, strong, emotionally intelligent and intellectual.
"It is the desire of all parents who want their children grow up healthy, comfortable, cheerful, strong, intelligent and intellectual emotion," said Hanny, who also serves as chairman of the El Radani and Edutainment Center, an institution focusing efforts on activities that stimulate the intellect and health children and families.
Hanny said, for physical development is clearly the result of the development of weight, height, strength endurance and others. And to measure intelligence, especially intellectuals, too easy to look and feel of its development. However, for children grow up in the three areas, namely to feel comfortable, cheerful, and usually a bit much stronger challenge because not many parents who understand the best approach.
"Understandably, there's no school to become a parent," said the mother of two children.
Well usually, for fussy kids or even be well to temper tantrums (a burst of anger the child when the child shows independence with his negative attitude). Because the three other growth areas had not been properly stimulated, the child feel uncomfortable, so not happy, is not strong mentally, and not emotionally intelligent.
"These things occurred because of the balance between the five areas of child development and growth," said the woman who took the education in the Six Seconds Emotional Intelligence USA in 2004 and 2005.
Surely a parent as closest person caring for children as one of the factors that could cause the child like that. Therefore, when children are cranky temper tantrum happens, many parents complain and handling children with the same way. For example a child crying, the parents simply give what the child requested, or it could be a threat or intimidated because the parents feel the approach is very effective.
"Yes it is effective, but effective only for the short term. Usually the customs will be repeated if the primary source has not handled well," he said.
Still said Hanny, the child is fussy or tantrums are not worried. Fussy attitude showed normal development for children, in the sense that he's had the desire, but in other respects he was also still has limitations in terms of verbal communication. Well, parents should be grateful when their children have the desire, but difficult to deliver and when it is difficult to communicate well, even scolded too.
"If the child does not have the desire, that there are delays in child development. Not better than the children have no desire," said the expert who takes Kinnesiolgy education in Psychology (Psych-K) Anaheim California and Miami, Florida in 2006 and 2007.
Other causes can also be because parents are always worried, full of fear and too protective, so what a parent feels the child is delivered as well so that the child feel uncomfortable. Another thing they also imitate the behavior of parents who easily upset, easily cried, and spoke harshly.
"Most importantly, as parents we should try to avoid fussiness child or child's temper tantrum does not become a habit or used as a tool to desire fulfilled," he advised.
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